{"id":2005,"date":"2013-09-10T11:39:45","date_gmt":"2013-09-10T11:39:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/?p=2005"},"modified":"2021-08-11T16:08:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T16:08:59","slug":"is-ve-ozel-hayatinizda-guven-kazanmanin-yollari-inci-aktas-nlp-kocu-egitmen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/is-ve-ozel-hayatinizda-guven-kazanmanin-yollari-inci-aktas-nlp-kocu-egitmen\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130\u015f ve \u00d6zel Hayat\u0131n\u0131zda G\u00fcven Kazanman\u0131n Yollar\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u0130\u015f Ve \u00d6zel Ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131zda G\u00fcven Kazanman\u0131n Yollar\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n

G\u00fcven nedir? TDK’ya g\u00f6re: Korku, \u00e7ekinme ve ku\u015fku duymadan inanma ve ba\u011flanma duygusu, itimat…G\u00fcven, iyi bir ili\u015fkinin tan\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. Stephen Covey\u2019in dedi\u011fi gibi; D\u00fcnyadaki t\u00fcm kurumlar, buna evlilik kurumu da dahil, ili\u015fkiler temeline yani g\u00fcvene dayan\u0131r. Peki g\u00fcven olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bu ili\u015fkilerde ileti\u015fim nas\u0131l olur?Birisine onu sevdi\u011finizi s\u00f6yleyebilirsiniz. Ama bunu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla g\u00f6stermedi\u011finizde lafta kalacakt\u0131r. \u201cBen g\u00fcvenilirim\u201d diyebilirsiniz, \u201c\u0130\u015fleri zaman\u0131nda bitiririm\u201d diyebilirsiniz, i\u015fler s\u00fcrekli aksad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bu s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn ne \u00f6nemi olacakt\u0131r? Saatlerce neler yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlatabilirsiniz ama ger\u00e7ekten yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z s\u00fcrece bu g\u00fcven sa\u011flamaz, aksine g\u00fcven \u00fczerinde y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 bir etkisi vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

NLP ( Neuro Linguistic Programming) \u2018\u0130nsanlar\u0131n s\u00f6zlerine \u00f6nem verin ama davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na daha \u00e7ok \u00f6nem verin. \u0130kisi aras\u0131nda bir \u00e7eli\u015fki varsa davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na \u00f6nem verin\u2019 der. Bu davran\u0131\u015f \u201cseni seviyorum\u201d derken g\u00f6zlerinizi ka\u00e7\u0131rmak gibi mikro bir davran\u0131\u015f da olabilir, sar\u0131lmak gibi makro bir davran\u0131\u015f da\u2026<\/p>\n

Neticede g\u00fcveni ancak davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla sa\u011flayabilirsiniz. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131zda ya da \u00f6zel hayat\u0131n\u0131zda g\u00fcveni nas\u0131l sa\u011flayabilirsiniz? G\u00fcven konusundaki \u015fu benzetmeyi severim. G\u00fcven kazanmak b\u00fcy\u00fck bir su kovas\u0131n\u0131 doldurmak gibidir. Her g\u00fcven verici davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda bir damla su dolar kovaya. Ancak bir g\u00fcn bir g\u00fcven k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 davran\u0131\u015f sergilersiniz ki, o da kovaya tekme at\u0131p devirmek gibidir. 25 y\u0131lda damla damla olu\u015fturdu\u011funuz g\u00fcveni 1 dakikada yerle bir edebilirsiniz.<\/p>\n

\u015eimdi g\u00fcven kazand\u0131racak davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 inceleyelim;<\/p>\n

\u2013\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Sad\u0131k olun : Birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z insanlar ya da aile \u00fcyeleriniz yan\u0131n\u0131zdayken s\u00f6ylemeyece\u011finiz \u015feyleri, onlar yokken farkl\u0131 ortamlarda s\u00f6ylemeyin. Size destek olanlar\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131zdaki katk\u0131lar\u0131na sad\u0131k olun ve bunu dile getirin. Onlar\u0131 bol bol takdir edin, te\u015fekk\u00fcr edin. Yan\u0131n\u0131zda olmayan ki\u015filer hakk\u0131nda savunmas\u0131n\u0131 gerektirecek \u015fekilde konu\u015fmay\u0131n. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda, oradakilerden biri kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda di\u011ferleri hemen onun arkas\u0131ndan konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flar. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 bundan zevk al\u0131r. Ama g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey, o kalkt\u0131ktan sonra da kendi arkalar\u0131ndan konu\u015fulaca\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Bundan b\u00f6yle birisi hakk\u0131nda konu\u015facaksan\u0131z bile sanki yan\u0131n\u0131zdaym\u0131\u015f gibi konu\u015fun. Dedikoduya kar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n

\u2013\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Daima Do\u011fruyu S\u00f6yleyin : Do\u011fruyu s\u00f6yleyin ve do\u011fru anla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zdan emin olun. Do\u011fruyu s\u00f6ylemek ile do\u011fru anla\u015f\u0131lmak farkl\u0131 \u015feylerdir. Do\u011fruyu s\u00f6yleseniz bile yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olabilece\u011finizden, ileti\u015fim yetene\u011finizi geli\u015ftirin. D\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak, olanlar\u0131 oldu\u011fu gibi anlatmak, ger\u00e7ekleri \u00e7arp\u0131tmamak g\u00fcven olu\u015fturmak i\u00e7in olduk\u00e7a \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n

\u2013\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Sayg\u0131l\u0131 Olun : Konf\u00fc\u00e7y\u00fcs der ki: \u201cSana yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 istemedi\u011fin \u015feyi ba\u015fkalar\u0131na yapma.\u2019 E\u011fer sayg\u0131 ve ilgi g\u00f6stermezseniz, bu hem i\u015f hem \u00f6zel hem de sosyal hayat\u0131n\u0131zda b\u00fcy\u00fck bir sorun yarat\u0131r. Baz\u0131 ki\u015filer tan\u0131r\u0131m yaln\u0131zca \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131 olan ki\u015filere sayg\u0131 ve ilgi g\u00f6sterirler. Oysa bir ki\u015finin karakterini, kendisine yarar\u0131 veya zarar\u0131 olmayacak ki\u015filere davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan anlayabilirsiniz. \u0130nsanlara kar\u015f\u0131 sayg\u0131 ve ilginizi g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in; takdir edin, te\u015fekk\u00fcr edin, g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemelerini sa\u011flay\u0131n ve en \u00f6nemlisi kendilerini \u00f6nemli hissetmelerini sa\u011flay\u0131n.<\/p>\n

\u2013\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Oldu\u011funuz gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcn, g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz gibi olun. G\u00fcven yaratmak i\u00e7in, a\u00e7\u0131k, samimi ve i\u00e7tenlikle davran\u0131n. Do\u011fruyu s\u00f6ylemek ve oldu\u011funuz gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek h\u0131zla g\u00fcven olu\u015fturur, yapmac\u0131k tav\u0131rlarla ki\u015fileri yan\u0131ltmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, sahte bir d\u00fcnya yaratmak g\u00fcveni ve insanlar\u0131 kaybettirir. \u0130nternet, saydaml\u0131\u011f\u0131n en g\u00fczel \u00f6rne\u011fidir. Her \u015feye a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a ula\u015fabilirsiniz. Ayn\u0131 zamanda sahte d\u00fcnyalara, takma adlarla ya\u015fan\u0131lan hayatlara da tan\u0131k olabilirsiniz. bir psikolo\u011fun bir gazetedeki yorumunu okumu\u015ftum bir g\u00fcn. Dan\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131n\u0131n facebook\u2019taki sahte d\u00fcnyalara ve mutluluk resimlerine dayanamay\u0131p depresyona girdi\u011fini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyordu. G\u00fcven yaratmak i\u00e7in oldu\u011funuz gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcn.<\/p>\n

\u2013\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hatalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 Telafi Edin ve Ders Al\u0131n : Bir hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda hemen kabul edip \u00f6z\u00fcr dilerseniz ve hemen ard\u0131ndan telafi edecek ad\u0131mlar\u0131 atarsan\u0131z, insanlar\u0131n size g\u00fcveni artar. E\u011fer g\u00fcven kovas\u0131na tekme atmak istiyorsan\u0131z \u00f6rtbas etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. E\u011fer hi\u00e7 hata yapmasayd\u0131k hi\u00e7bir \u015fey \u00f6\u011frenemezdik. e\u011fer hi\u00e7 hata yapm\u0131yorsak hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapm\u0131yoruzdur, ki bu daha k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u015feydir. Hata iyi bir \u015feydir, tabi kabul edip ders alman\u0131z ve telafi etmeniz ko\u015fuluyla.<\/p>\n

\u2013\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Sonu\u00e7 \u00dcretin : E\u011fer i\u015f yerinizde veya ailenizde, kaybolmu\u015f bir g\u00fcveni yeniden yaratmak ya da ilk defa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir i\u015fte h\u0131za g\u00fcven kazanmak istiyorsan\u0131z, en h\u0131zl\u0131 yol sonu\u00e7 \u00fcretmektir. Dilimizde \u201claf \u00e7ok, icraat yok\u201d gibi sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fckmedi\u011finden dolay\u0131 g\u00fcvensizlik yarat\u0131lm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu ifade eden deyimler vard\u0131r. H\u0131zla \u00fcretilen sonu\u00e7lar, hakk\u0131n\u0131zda olu\u015fan olumsuz kan\u0131lar\u0131 da ortadan kald\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u2013\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 S\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc Tutun : Asla tutamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z s\u00f6zler vermeyin. Bir s\u00f6z verdiyseniz mutlaka tutun. Tutamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z s\u00f6zler i\u00e7in mutlaka \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyin ve telafi edin. Bir s\u00f6z verirken ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na bak\u0131n.\u00a0 Bazen veremedi\u011finiz s\u00f6zler kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011fratabilir. Yine de \u00f6nceden hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framak, s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc tutmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in g\u00fcven kayb\u0131 ya\u015famaktan daha iyi olabilir.<\/p>\n

Ve son olarak siz de insanlara g\u00fcvenin.\u2018Her zaman g\u00fcvenip bazen hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framak, s\u00fcrekli g\u00fcvensizlik i\u00e7inde olup bazen hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmaktan iyidir.\u2019<\/em>-Neal A. Maxwell<\/p>\n

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\u0130\u015f Ve \u00d6zel Ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131zda G\u00fcven Kazanman\u0131n Yollar\u0131 G\u00fcven nedir? TDK’ya g\u00f6re: Korku, \u00e7ekinme ve ku\u015fku duymadan inanma ve ba\u011flanma duygusu, itimat…G\u00fcven, iyi bir ili\u015fkinin tan\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. Stephen Covey\u2019in dedi\u011fi gibi; D\u00fcnyadaki […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[545,3,1],"tags":[1273,542,22,56,541,543,544,871],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2005"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2005"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2005\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4488,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2005\/revisions\/4488"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2005"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2005"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2005"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}