{"id":213,"date":"2011-04-18T21:26:48","date_gmt":"2011-04-18T21:26:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mccdanismanlik.com\/?p=213"},"modified":"2026-04-04T12:49:04","modified_gmt":"2026-04-04T12:49:04","slug":"askin-ve-sevginin-dili","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/askin-ve-sevginin-dili\/","title":{"rendered":"A\u015fk\u0131n ve Sevginin Dili – Aile Dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131, \u0130li\u015fki Terapisti, Psikoterapist \u00d6zlem Akta\u015f"},"content":{"rendered":"

A\u015fk\u0131n ve Sevginin Dili<\/strong> \u00a0–<\/p>\n

Aile Dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131, \u0130li\u015fki Terapisti, Psikoterapist \u00d6zlem Akta\u015f<\/p>\n

A\u015f\u0131k olmak belki de d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en g\u00fczel duygusudur. \u0130nsan\u0131n a\u015f\u0131k olunca ayaklar\u0131 yere basmaz olur, sanki hep bulutlarda geziyordur. \u0130\u00e7i p\u0131r p\u0131r eder, y\u00fcre\u011fi susmak bilmez, a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, uykuya dalarken, sabah kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ak\u0131lda hep o a\u015f\u0131k olunan ki\u015fi vard\u0131r. Onunla birlikteyken kendimizi cennetin e\u015fi\u011findeymi\u015fiz gibi hissederiz. Elini tuttu\u011fumuzda kan\u0131m\u0131z birlikte ak\u0131yor gibidir. O ki\u015fiye sar\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ayaklar\u0131m\u0131z yerden kesilir. Kimi bu duygularla beraber evlilik hayali kurar. Kimi a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011funun en m\u00fckemmel insan oldu\u011funa inan\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Hepimiz evlenmeden \u00f6nce mutlu bir evlilik hayali kurar\u0131z. Ba\u015flarda di\u011ferleri gibi a\u015fk\u0131m\u0131z\u0131\u00a0kaybetmeyece\u011finizden\u00a0o kadar inan\u0131r\u0131z ki… Biz di\u011ferleri gibi birbirimizi k\u0131r\u0131p incitmeyece\u011fizdir, ili\u015fkimizi y\u0131pratmayaca\u011f\u0131zd\u0131r, buna inan\u0131r\u0131z. Ne yaz\u0131k ki a\u015fk\u0131n \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn 2 y\u0131l oldu\u011fu psikologlar taraf\u0131ndan kan\u0131tland\u0131. Sonu\u00e7ta g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r, ayaklar\u0131m\u0131z yere basar ve kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini istedi\u011fimiz gibi de\u011fil oldu\u011fu gibi g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flar\u0131z . Bir zamanlar deli gibi a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuz insan bize k\u0131z\u0131p ele\u015ftirmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f, bir zamanlar g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcze b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6z\u00fckmeyen \u00f6nemsiz g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz \u015feyler birden \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli olmaya bizi rahats\u0131z etmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Birden evlili\u011fin ger\u00e7ek hayat\u0131n i\u00e7ine girivermi\u015fizdir. Di\u015f macununun nas\u0131l s\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan, kirli \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131rlara kadar her \u015fey g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcze batmaya ba\u015flar ve bir zamanlar deli gibi a\u015f\u0131k olanlar d\u00fc\u015fman oluverirken evlilikte sava\u015f alan\u0131 oluverir. Ger\u00e7ek \u015fu ki insan a\u015f\u0131k olman\u0131n \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131n durumunda \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcre kalmas\u0131 imkans\u0131zd\u0131r. A\u015f\u0131k olunca her \u015fey ikinci planda kal\u0131r, hatta \u00f6nemsiz hale gelir. Hedefler, i\u015f,isteklerimiz, hayallerimiz… Sadece a\u015fk\u0131m\u0131zla ilgili hayallerimiz vard\u0131r. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsenize b\u00f6yle bir durumda olsayd\u0131k hepimiz bu d\u00fcnyan\u0131n hali ne olurdu ?<\/p>\n

Zaman i\u00e7inde a\u015fk bittikten sonra, ili\u015fkiye bireysel istekler, duygular, ihtiya\u00e7lar ve davran\u0131\u015f kal\u0131plar\u0131 hakim olmaya ba\u015flar. A\u015fk sona ermi\u015ftir. Bu durumda ki\u015filer ya birbirinden uzakla\u015f\u0131r, bo\u015fan\u0131r, ayr\u0131l\u0131r ya ba\u015fka a\u015fklar\u0131n pe\u015fine d\u00fc\u015fer ya da ite kaka ili\u015fkilerini s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. A\u015fk sona ermeden \u00f6nce, sevgiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fclmesi \u015fartt\u0131r. Sevgiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fclemeyen her a\u015fk bitmeye mahkumdur.<\/p>\n

A\u015fk ile sevginin birbirine kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmamas\u0131 gerekir. A\u015fk bilin\u00e7li bir tercih de\u011fildir. Aniden umulmad\u0131k bir anda gelir. A\u015fk g\u00fcd\u00fcsel olarak bizi tuhaf ve mant\u0131ks\u0131z \u015feyler yapmaya iter ve\u00a0a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumuzda ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bu m\u00fckemmel en y\u00fcksek mutluluk seviyesinin korunmas\u0131n\u0131, hi\u00e7 bitmemesini isteriz. Ancak bunun sonsuza dek s\u00fcrmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir. A\u015fk bittikten sonra bunu ger\u00e7ek sevgiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcremezsek e\u011fer ac\u0131 verici ayr\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n ya\u015fanmas\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazd\u0131r. O halde a\u015fk\u0131 oldu\u011fu gibi kabul edip e\u015fimizle ger\u00e7ek sevgiyi var etmek ve korumak i\u00e7in \u00e7abalayabiliriz. B\u00f6yle bir sevgi tutku i\u00e7ermeyebilir ancak akl\u0131 ve duyguyu birle\u015ftiren bir sevgi olur ve bu da \u00e7aba gerektirir.<\/p>\n

En temel duygusal ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z a\u015fk de\u011fil, birlikte oldu\u011fumuz insan taraf\u0131ndan ger\u00e7ekten sevilmek ve sevginin g\u00fcd\u00fcsel olarak de\u011fil, ak\u0131l ve irade ile beslenip g\u00fc\u00e7lendirildi\u011fini bilmektir.<\/p>\n

Se\u00e7imlerimizden olu\u015fan ger\u00e7ek d\u00fcnyaya d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde, iyi ve sevgimizi g\u00f6stermekte c\u00f6mert olmay\u0131 se\u00e7ersek bunun ad\u0131 sevgi olur. E\u015fimizin bizi kabullendi\u011fine, bizi istedi\u011fine ve bizim iyili\u011fimiz i\u00e7in u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131rsak kendimizi g\u00fcvende ve mutlu hissederiz. Peki evlenince g\u00f6zlerdeki \u0131\u015f\u0131lt\u0131, cinselli\u011fin heyecan\u0131 ne olacak diyebilirsiniz ? Ancak e\u015finizin g\u00f6z\u00fcndeki en \u00f6nemli ki\u015fi oldu\u011funuzu bilmenin g\u00fcvenlik duygusu inan\u0131n hepsine bedeldir ve her \u015feye de\u011fer bir duygudur.<\/p>\n

Daima sevgiyle kal\u0131n…<\/p>\n

Aile Dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131, \u0130li\u015fki Terapisti, Psikoterapist \u00a0\u00d6zlem Akta\u015f<\/p>\n

\u0130leti\u015fim 05335179512<\/p>\n

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