{"id":2548,"date":"2014-06-28T09:49:22","date_gmt":"2014-06-28T09:49:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/?p=2548"},"modified":"2021-08-11T15:40:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T15:40:39","slug":"iliskileri-bir-solene-donusturmek-ozlem-aktas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/iliskileri-bir-solene-donusturmek-ozlem-aktas\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130li\u015fkileri Bir \u015e\u00f6lene D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmek \u2013 \u00d6zlem Akta\u015f"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/mutlu-bir-ili\u015fki-sevgili1-642x320.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-2549\" title=\"mutlu-bir-ili\u015fki-sevgili1-642x320\" src=\"http:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/mutlu-bir-ili\u015fki-sevgili1-642x320-300x149.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"149\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/mutlu-bir-ili\u015fki-sevgili1-642x320-300x149.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/mutlu-bir-ili\u015fki-sevgili1-642x320.jpg 642w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>\u201cBen evli ve\u00a0 \u00e7ocuklu bir adam\u0131m ve kar\u0131m s\u00fcrekli beni bo\u011fuyor, buna dayan\u0131yorum . \u00c7ocuklar olmasa bir g\u00fcn dahi bu evlilikte duramayaca\u011f\u0131m.\u201d Bu s\u00f6zler bir dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131ma ait.\u00a0 Bu s\u00f6zc\u00fckleri son zamanlarda s\u0131k\u00e7a i\u015fitir olduk maalesef.<\/p>\n<p>Ne ac\u0131d\u0131r ki bir\u00e7ok evlilik veya ili\u015fki bu \u00e7er\u00e7evede ilerliyor. Sevmeyi, birbirimiz \u00fczerinde bask\u0131 kurmak san\u0131yoruz. Birbirimizi k\u0131skand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde sevdi\u011fimizi sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyoruz. Oysa ki kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki insana ya\u015fam alan\u0131 b\u0131rakmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda onu da kendimizi de bozdu\u011fumuzu fark etmiyoruz. Sonradan kendimize neden mutsuzum diye soruyoruz. \u0130li\u015fkilerdeki mutsuzluklar bir kader mi? Elbette de\u011fil, ancak ili\u015fkilerde cehennemimizi yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 fark etmiyoruz. Oysaki cennet cehennem burada, yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z se\u00e7imler, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z duygular sonucunda cenneti de cehennemi de burada ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. \u0130li\u015fkide intikam, aldatma, huzursuzluk, mutsuzluk, anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hissetmek&#8230; bu duygular i\u00e7erisinde oldu\u011fumuz her an cehennemimizi ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Oysaki ili\u015fkide anlay\u0131\u015f, empati, sayg\u0131, a\u015fk, tutku, huzur ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her an cennetimizi ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Hayat okyanuslar\u0131n\u0131 biz yarat\u0131yoruz. Gelgitlerimiz, dalgalanmalar, f\u0131rt\u0131nalar kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 bizim eserimiz; tek ba\u015f\u0131na ne erke\u011fin ne de kad\u0131n\u0131n. Yaratt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131za bakmak laz\u0131m. Etrafta sahte ve birbirinin ayn\u0131 evlilikler ve ili\u015fkiler, mutluluk oyunu oynamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan ama ne istedi\u011fini bilmeyen mutsuz insanlar. Diyoruzki eskiden b\u00f6yle de\u011fildi, evlenince \u00e7ok de\u011fi\u015fti, ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6yle mi? Evlilikle birlikte alg\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z, anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z, beklentilerimiz de\u011fi\u015fiyor olabilir mi? Asl\u0131nda her an biz, biz olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131nda m\u0131y\u0131z? Hepimiz her an\u00a0 de\u011fi\u015fiyoruz. \u0130nsanlar s\u00fcrekli\u00a0 de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fi i\u00e7in hi\u00e7 kimse iki ki\u015finin mutlu olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 zaten garanti edemez. Neyin garantisini verebiliriz ki? \u0130nsanlar evlili\u011fe bir garanti g\u00f6z\u00fcyle bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u00fcddet\u00e7e ger\u00e7ek mutluluk yakalanamaz. Evlilik de hayat da risktir, ancak riskler g\u00fczeldir ve g\u00fczel olan risklidir. Oysa ki garantici bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Neyin garantisi vard\u0131r ki? Hayat s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131zd\u0131r, her t\u00fcrl\u00fc duyguyu, her \u015feyi i\u00e7inde bar\u0131nd\u0131ran. Bize d\u00fc\u015fen ise, hayatta ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sevgiyle kar\u015f\u0131lamakt\u0131r, belki de kalbinin \u015fark\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 dinleyerek \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc o zaman evlilik de ili\u015fkiler de bo\u011fucu olmaktan \u00e7\u0131karak, an\u0131n fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131nda keyif al\u0131nan s\u00fcre\u00e7lere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir. \u0130li\u015fkilerinize yeni bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 kazand\u0131rabilirsiniz. Daha mutlu bir ili\u015fkiye nas\u0131l sahip olabilirim? S\u0131n\u0131rlayan korkular\u0131m ve tak\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131ndan nas\u0131l vazge\u00e7ebilirim? Evlili\u011fimi, ili\u015fkimi bir \u015f\u00f6lene nas\u0131l d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrebilirim? Daha mutlu, doyumlu bir ya\u015fam\u0131 nas\u0131l olu\u015fturabilirim? Bu sorular\u0131n cevaplar\u0131n\u0131 ili\u015fki ko\u00e7lu\u011fu ile bulabilirsiniz. De\u011fi\u015fimin ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz oldu\u011funu fark etti\u011finiz an, ad\u0131m atma zaman\u0131d\u0131r ve her an bir d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm f\u0131rsat\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130li\u015fkilerde d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc sa\u011flamak, ili\u015fki ko\u00e7lu\u011funun ana temas\u0131d\u0131r. Ayn\u0131 kalmayan bu d\u00fcnyada her\u015fey de\u011fi\u015firken, sizin de ve ili\u015fkinizin de de\u011fi\u015febilece\u011fini kabul etmek gerekir ve her \u015fey sadece bir ad\u0131mla ba\u015flar, de\u011fi\u015fme karar\u0131n\u0131 vermek ile.<\/p>\n<p>Kalbinizin \u015fark\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 dinleyip, mutlulu\u011fu sonuna kadar ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z a\u015fk ve sevgi dolu g\u00fcnler diliyorum.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zlem Akta\u015f &#8211; \u0130li\u015fki Ko\u00e7u, Yazar<\/p>\n<p>(224)2434314<\/p>\n<p>Online E\u011fitimlere kay\u0131t i\u00e7in; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.plenahuman.com\/\">www.plenahuman.com<\/a> internet sitemizi ziyaret edebilirsiniz. T\u00fcm <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.plenahuman.com\/\">online e\u011fitimler<\/a>i<\/em>mize sitemizden ula\u015fabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cBen evli ve\u00a0 \u00e7ocuklu bir adam\u0131m ve kar\u0131m s\u00fcrekli beni bo\u011fuyor, buna dayan\u0131yorum . \u00c7ocuklar olmasa bir g\u00fcn dahi bu evlilikte duramayaca\u011f\u0131m.\u201d Bu s\u00f6zler bir dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131ma ait.\u00a0 Bu s\u00f6zc\u00fckleri son [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[31,866,1],"tags":[82,121,351,58,258,619,10,183,81],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2548"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2548"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2548\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4426,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2548\/revisions\/4426"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2548"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2548"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.akademiplena.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2548"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}