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<\/a>Hayatta hi\u00e7bir \u015fey istedi\u011finiz gibi gitmiyor mu? Bu c\u00fcmleyi o kadar \u00e7ok duydum ki \u00e7evremdeki insanlardan. Ben de kullan\u0131rd\u0131m bazen ama ba\u015fl\u0131ba\u015f\u0131na sorgulayaca\u011f\u0131m bu yaz\u0131mda. Hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015f m\u00fcyd\u00fcm peki, neden hi\u00e7bir \u015fey \u0130STED\u0130\u011e\u0130M gibi gitmiyordu o c\u00fcmleyi kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131m s\u0131ralar?<\/p>\n\u00dczerinde biraz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcnce her \u015feyin tam da istedi\u011fim gibi gitti\u011fini fark ettim. Her\u015fey \u00f6nem verdi\u011fim de\u011ferlere g\u00f6re i\u015fliyordu hayat\u0131mda.<\/p>\n
De\u011ferlerim aras\u0131nda en \u00fcst d\u00fczeyde yer alan\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131kken, nas\u0131l s\u00fcrekli ailemle birlikte olmay\u0131 arzulayabilirdim? Ya da en y\u00fcksek de\u011feri ba\u015far\u0131 olan bir ki\u015fi ayn\u0131 zamanda nas\u0131l rahatl\u0131k, evde oturmak ve dinlenmek isteyebilirdi?<\/p>\n
Sonunda anlad\u0131m. E\u011fer hayat\u0131m\u0131zda yolunda gitmeyen bir \u015feyler varsa art\u0131k daha az \u00fcz\u00fclebilirdik. Nas\u0131l m\u0131? De\u011ferlerimizi do\u011fru saptayarak!<\/p>\n
De\u011ferlerimizi bizi bir kolumuzdan \u00e7eken k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck sevimli yarat\u0131klar gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Onlar bizi ba\u015far\u0131ya, mutlulu\u011fa, d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011fe ya da minnete do\u011fru \u00e7ekerken, korkular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 temsil eden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck sevimsiz yarat\u0131klar ise di\u011fer kolumuzdan \u00e7eker.<\/p>\n
\u00d6rne\u011fin, ilk de\u011feri ba\u015far\u0131, hayat\u0131nda en \u00f6nemli \u015fey ba\u015far\u0131 olan bir ki\u015finin en b\u00fcy\u00fck korkusu reddedilme veya a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanma, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fme ve ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131ksa, hem de\u011ferini ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftiremedi\u011fi gibi bu \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma beyinde bir karma\u015faya, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla da strese yol a\u00e7acakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu durumda ilk yap\u0131lacak \u015fey, \u00f6nce bir de\u011ferler listesi yapmakt\u0131r. Hayatta en \u00e7ok neyi \u00f6nemsiyorsunuz? Bunlar para yada araba gibi ara\u00e7lar de\u011fil ger\u00e7ek de\u011ferler olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u00d6rne\u011fin; sevgi, a\u015fk, mutluluk, ne\u015fe, e\u011flence, zeka, yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k, sa\u011fl\u0131k, aile, al\u00e7akg\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fck, yard\u0131mseverlik, ba\u015far\u0131, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131k vb.<\/p>\n
Bunlar\u0131 kendinize g\u00f6re en \u00f6nemli olandan ba\u015flayarak s\u0131ralay\u0131n. Benim eklemedi\u011fim de\u011ferler varsa onlar\u0131 da kullan\u0131n. Daha sonra korkular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bir kenara yaz\u0131n ve kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131n.<\/p>\n
En \u00f6nemli de\u011feriniz ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131ksa ve en b\u00fcy\u00fck korkunuz ba\u015fka \u015fehre ta\u015f\u0131n\u0131p orada ya\u015famaksa nas\u0131l i\u015fler yolundaym\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6z\u00fckebilir?<\/p>\n
Ben burada korkular\u0131n olumlu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesinden \u015fuanda bahsetmeyece\u011fim. \u0130lk a\u015fama de\u011ferler hiyerar\u015fisinde baz\u0131 de\u011ferlerin yerini de\u011fi\u015ftirmek olacakt\u0131r. Daha bunu yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda bile rahatlayacak, mutlu olacaks\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n
Bir arkada\u015f\u0131m vard\u0131. Ailesine hi\u00e7 vakit ay\u0131ramad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in i\u015ften ayr\u0131lmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyordu. Ama i\u015fini ve dolay\u0131s\u0131yla para kaybetme korkusu inan\u0131lmaz can\u0131n\u0131 ac\u0131t\u0131yordu. ‘Neden?’ diye sordu\u011fumda ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n en \u00fcst d\u00fczeyde \u00f6neme sahip de\u011feri oldu\u011funu fark ettim. Bu durumda tab\u00ee ki i\u015ften ayr\u0131l\u0131yor olmak ona ac\u0131 verecekti.<\/p>\n
Sonra oturup de\u011ferler hiyerar\u015fisine bakt\u0131k. En \u00fcst s\u0131rada olan ba\u015far\u0131 yerine aileyi koyduk ve arkada\u015f\u0131m i\u015ften ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7ok mutluydu. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc en \u00f6nemli de\u011feri i\u00e7in bir \u015feyler yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Kendisiyle \u00e7eli\u015fmiyordu ve her \u015fey istedi\u011fi gibi gidiyordu art\u0131k.<\/p>\n
Hadi hemen \u015fimdi oturup de\u011ferlerinizi g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irin. Sizinle \u00e7eli\u015fen, strese sokan ve s\u0131n\u0131rlayan de\u011ferleriniz neler? Yer de\u011fi\u015ftirin. \u00d6rne\u011fin s\u0131ralaman\u0131z; \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, ba\u015far\u0131, sa\u011fl\u0131k vs. gibi s\u0131ralan\u0131yor ama sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zdan endi\u015fe etti\u011finiz i\u00e7in d\u00fcnya turuna yaln\u0131z \u00e7\u0131kam\u0131yorsan\u0131z, de\u011ferler listenizin ba\u015f\u0131na sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 koyun. Bak\u0131n nas\u0131l durumunuz bir anda de\u011fi\u015fecek.<\/p>\n
Elbette de\u011ferler s\u0131ralaman\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmenin yan\u0131 s\u0131ra sizinle \u00e7eli\u015fen korkular\u0131n\u0131zdan da ar\u0131nman\u0131z\u0131n vakti geldi. En k\u00f6t\u00fc ve s\u0131n\u0131rlay\u0131c\u0131 inan\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tespit edip onlar\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck ac\u0131lara ba\u011flarsan\u0131z ve yerine olumlu ve g\u00fc\u00e7lendirici inan\u00e7lar\u0131 koyarsan\u0131z, de\u011ferler listeniz amac\u0131na ula\u015fm\u0131\u015f olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Kullanman\u0131z dile\u011fiyle…<\/p>\n
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